In response to the near ban on abortion in Texas, the Women’s March planned a Rally for Abortion Justice on October 2nd to march in defense of abortion rights and reproductive freedom. Planned Parenthood had posted a couple ads for this rally, which unsurprisingly triggered a large amount of antiabortion supporters. Many antiabortion supporters have reacted to these ads by commenting some variation of “What if your mother had aborted you?”
Here are a few of those comments (spelling and grammar mistakes included):
“Has anyone else found it strange that people are screaming for abortions when their mothers didn’t have an abortion?”
“Better be glad your mom didn’t feel that way”
“Choose life your MOTHER did, you wouldn’t be here if she hadn’t.”
“Are t you glad your mother didn’t abort you?”
“Abortion is murder! Are you not glad your mother didn’t abort you!”
“Dear Ralleyers, Aren’t you glad your mothers did not abort you?”
“Aren’t you glad your Mother didn’t choose abortion?”
“Every one of you women should be thankful that your mother didn’t selfishly decide to destroy your life while in their womb.”
“Don’t forget to thank your mom today that she did not abort you”
“Everyone remember to be thankful that your mother chose to be pro-life and gave birth to you”
“Your mother’s all chose life for you. Sad you don’t want the same for your child. You are selfish self centered brats.”
“I like the bumper sticker that said, your mom was pro life”
“Imagine if we all would have been ABORTED!”
“If they had been aborted, they couldn’t protest. Their moms decided to keep them. Think on this…”
“What all you ‘abortion justice activists’ do not realize is that if your mother had aborted you, you would not be alive to have any say in this issue. EVERY SINGLE PERSON on this planet was a mass of tissue that fed off the host body. But for all you activists, your mother’s gave you a chance at life. Think on that for a while”
Whenever I see antiabortion supporters ask this hypothetical abortion question involving my mother I ask, “You mean my abusive mother?”
What if she did have an abortion? She probably would have been happier not having children that ended up being diagnosed with varying levels of autism during a time when autism was relatively unknown and there was little to no support for it so my parents were all alone in learning how to raise kids with autism. My father possibly wouldn’t have put up with an abusive relationship for as long as he did because there wouldn’t have been kids to consider. Since I wouldn’t have existed, I wouldn’t have suffered the mental damage I still struggle with that partially led me to supporting reproductive rights so women can have a choice about having children. More importantly, there wouldn’t have been any children to become my father’s replacements for emotional, mental, and financial abuse when he did finally decided after years of abuse and manipulation to file divorce and move to the other side of the state just to get away from her.
Antiabortion supporters ask “What if your mother had aborted you?” in an attempt to force pro-choice supporters to rethink their stance on abortion because their own mothers chose to give them a chance at life. When I think about it, I doubt my mother would have felt she actually had any choice regarding her pregnancies due to being raised Catholic. She likely was taught that it was her duty as a woman of God to bear children even if she didn’t want them and that abortion and birth control were evil, though admittedly I can’t be for certain if this was the case. What I do know for sure is (according to her) she had a falling out with the church when she divorced her abusive first husband and later when she had me out of wedlock with a different man who wasn’t involved in the church at all—her church refused to baptize me on both grounds. Maybe if a “pro-life” religion hadn’t possibly pressured her bear children regardless of what she wanted—just like the antiabortion movement does now—and then ostracized and abandoned her for having children outside some dumb archaic rules, things might have been better for her. Instead of making me rethink my stance on reproductive rights, this hypothetical scenario has only further solidified it.
Now that we’ve pondered alternative timelines where pro-choice supporters were aborted, I have a follow up question for the antiabortion supporters: What are you doing to ensure that women don’t end up like my mother?